tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31006111.post1865476677338326313..comments2023-10-15T04:14:11.505-07:00Comments on FORESTER: Thorn in the FleshForesterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13252666368088857269noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31006111.post-86125480858320701972007-03-18T17:07:00.000-07:002007-03-18T17:07:00.000-07:00I've read some of your previous posts and have jus...I've read some of your previous posts and have just a thought or two. I'm on the other side of this scenario. My eternal companion struggles the way you do. You are farther along a healing path than he was at your age, which is good. He reached a point where "just keeping things under control" exploded in our faces. Even though I had always "known" about his struggle, the things that he didn't share with me were enough to nearly bring him down. Lose yourself in love and service for them and keep your self miles and miles, like not even shouting distance, from anyone who could come between you and your family. You cannot imagine to yourself, at any time, that a little bit of experimentation would be okay. You can't even assume that you can help anyone else because so often that is the beginning of an infatuation. You can't allow anyone to ever be anything to you that your wife should be, anything at all, and that is the bottom line. Take up your cross and follow Christ. We all deny ourselves something, that is the whole point of following Christ. He denied himself more that we will ever know or could ever understand. He is the only hope for all of us, not just you. In the meantime, recognize that in not telling her, you are not being honest with her and there will most likely be a sense of betrayal when you finally do. Might I suggest that when the Lord tells you it's time to be more honest in your dealings with your wife, that you ask her to fast with you, letting her know that you have something very important to tell her. Get a babysitter overnight for your children, and take her to the temple. When you get home, pray together and then when the spirit is very strong tell her that you love her and nothing will change that - and then describe the things you struggle with. The spirit is your ally as long as you are clean, and faithful to your covenants. You will know when that time is. Be worthy of the strength of the Spirit that you will need to ADD to her conficence in you as her husband. Don't dabble in the adversary's territory, ever. Be worthy of her and she will love you. I know, because that's all I want. I want him to be worthy. I want the Spirit to confirm his worthiness to me, and know that we can return to the temple together. Don't ever put your sweet companion in this place that I am in. That is the ONE thing that you NEVER want to do, no matter HOW CURIOUS YOU ARE. You don't want her to be looking at you, full of pain, knowing that you have been in unseemly places with unworthy companions. Deny yourself, and follow Christ. God be with you, and her. This road isn't easy, and I believe it says a great deal about the two of you that this is your road.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03973736107472396459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31006111.post-4637748567885887422007-03-16T08:17:00.000-07:002007-03-16T08:17:00.000-07:00Amen!Amen!Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31006111.post-91510862191308247912007-03-15T21:13:00.000-07:002007-03-15T21:13:00.000-07:00Beautiful sentiment... beautifully written.Thanks....Beautiful sentiment... beautifully written.<BR/><BR/>Thanks.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.com